Well it is the beginning of a New Year! As the ball drops and we begging to sing the song by Robert Burns, some of us begin thinking of all the people who have gone from our lives possibly friends we have not been able to keep in touch with, but most of us are think about the friends that we call New Years Resolutions! The not so great friends (habits) we struggled with in the last year and want to change this year. I have never been one to buy in to New Years Resolutions. I find them to be promises that are too hard to keep from all the rules and restrictions we put around them to make them perfect. This year for some reason, I find myself thinking about all the things I would like to be doing different. Not sure if it’s the tradition of the New Year or the idea that this is a clean slate, but I can not keep my mind from trying to make lists of what I hope this year could be like.
As I look at this past year I can truly say there have been some major parts of my life I could defiantly improve on. I am sure many of you will be able to relate with most of them. I would like to make time for myself to read my bible more. I am always saying I don’t have time, but truly if I look at the hours, I do searching the Web or playing MindCraft on the computer ( yes I love mindcraft, the kids and I are addicted to it and waste tons of time) I would have gotten through the bible twice by now. I would love a cleaner house with more organization, I would like to drop 80 pounds, have healthier meals for the kids and healthier snacks everyday, Exercise at least 5 times a week, and build some more relationships outside of family for the kids and I. These all seem like reasonable and typical News Resolutions. Nothing mind-boggling or any huge discoveries. Just a list of “ I would like to change” running ramped in my head. So, how to go about these wonderful changes without making them the typical New Year Empty Promises to be broken within a short period of time? I have no Idea! I am at a complete loss HA!
I find that Some of us who make New Year Resolutions every year with great intent and plans seem to fall short and just give up. I have to say I am one of those types. I am a perfectionist. I set the goals too high and I make it impossible to achieve any goal I set out to make. The rules on success that I create are too high for anyone to achieve. The expectations of what I see as perfect are popped into a million pieces within the first week causing a spiral of frustrated reactions ending with the decision that it is easier to give up then to deal with the disappointment of another failed attempt to change. So how do I go about trying to achieve all my desires for this year? I think I have come up with a plan I can deal with. I am not making any expectations! I will not make a plan that can’t be broken. I will face each day as itself, look at my list and tackle it one day at a time. If a day does not go smoothly, no big deal. What I accomplish is great and I will learn from it. Like every year I am not going to make a New Years Resolution for each of the items on my list. Those wonderful ideas that are running ramped in my brain are just bubbles of failures ready to be popped by my inability to make reasonable goals. My First Ever New Years Resolution is going to be the plan not to plan. I will think of each day as an isolated event. I will be thinking/praying about my list and just see if I take it one day at a time, just maybe I can make a few positive changes this year. Making a few changes each year is going to be better than never achieving anything at all. I figure you can’t pop a bubble of expectations if there is no bubble to pop LOL! HAppy New Year Everyone!